How to win the sex war

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Situation Busy lives have knocked your sex rhythms out of whack
Objective Get your sex drives back in sync, fast

"Apply the Japanese principle of Kaizen – tiny steps leading to big changes," says sex educator Nicci Talbot. "Start suggesting sex at unusual times so that it isn't associated with the schedule you link to refusals and being tired. It feels naughty to get into bed in the afternoon or when everyone else is at work." Then, order new lingerie, sex toys or bedsheets every month and resolve to use them as soon as they arrive to keep your libidos rebooted.

Back-up Turn up the heating so it's warm enough to go bare-armed: she's more likely to orgasm, found the University of Groningen.

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