I lost my sex drive!

I completely lost my sex drive after having a baby. Why is this, and what can I do?

The biggest reason is that your hormones are on crack. Almost every woman has a decreased sex drive after giving birth. And it can last for months. This explains why some women have postpartum depression or lack interest in doin' it. Second, you are exhausted, very exhausted. Extreme fatigue does not exactly put you in the mood for sex. Third, since new babies are so demanding and require physical attention, you are what is known as being "touched out." You don't exactly feel like being touched after you've been carrying, rocking, and diapering a baby all day. Fourth, you may subconsciously be afraid of getting pregnant again, and fifth, you may feel bloated and not so great about your body right now. But there is hope!

If you're not breast-feeding, you might want to have your doctor test your hormones. You can take some temporary supplements, either prescription or natural. Some doctors prescribe a cream that you rub on your arm. Also, although you may not feel like it, it's important to exercise. You should try to exercise every single day. When the baby is sleeping, put in a yoga tape. Believe me, it will do wonders! There is one I particularly like called Better Sex Through Yoga, which targets the "sexual core muscles" — the pelvic muscles and p.c. (pubococcygeus) muscle. Exercising these muscles, along with doing breathing exercises, revs up the whole area down there and will make you feel better in general.

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